The Most Common Misinterpretation about the Law of Attraction

I love the movie The Secret... As a trainer, I refer to and recommend it frequently.

Inevitably... someone complains that it does not work. Each time I hear this complaint, it's the same misinterpretation, and I hear things like:

"I've been focusing on a new car and nothing!"
"I've been focusing on people being nicer to me and nothing has changed."

It's an easy mistake to make... and it's based on the idea stated in The Secret that thoughts become things... which is absolutely true! However it is the feeling that the thought creates that has the power.

So obsessing about one thing like a new car will not create a car... especially if this is stressful in any way and only reminds you of what you do not yet possess.

The Law of Attraction states like attracts like... which literally means like energy attracts like energy.

So the question becomes... what energy or state of being is being expressed when you focus on something? That state of being acts as a magnet, or repellent, to the very thing you're trying to attract!

The moment you think the object or car will bring you happiness, you have just accepted and declared that you are not as happy as you could be now without that car... so you emanate and attract as not as happy as you could be. So what shows up for you now will only reinforce not as happy and nothing changes.

This does not mean you can't want a car... wanting it is the first step... but it is not the only step.

How you get the car is by understanding that attracting a car has to do with the feeling the car provides. When you see yourself enjoying this new car, how do you feel?

Now use your mind and focus on the feeling.

Every experience has at least two sides to it: a physical and an emotional aspect... the physical is what is or what is happening... while the emotional is how you feel about it. They are intimately connected and work synergistically... so by feeling the feeling, you attract or create the physical match... and that physical match could be an infinite variety of things that you have linked to that feeling.

So to streamline the process as directed in The Secret:

1. Ask - Ask for what you want and see if you feel a sense of lack. Now notice if you can choose a different energy or state of being. Most get stuck here... "I don't have it, but I want it."
2. Believe - Usually with this, people just believe it will come if you do/think x, y and z. But this belief is only mental and the attaining of what you want is stuck in the future. Feeling it is True Now would be more effective. There is no tomorrow reality--only now. If you believe it will happen later or in the future, you are declaring it is not happening now.
3. Receive - The tricky part here is the assumption that it will show up exactly how we pictured it and if it does not, there is something wrong... wrong with the law... wrong with me... wrong with the world. Then we're caught in a vicious cycle of experiencing lack, and we sabotage or dissolve what we wanted in the first place. It become like a mirage. Receiving is really about openness, and the ability to say yes; because even though man wants the apple, the universe wants to give him the orchard.

The critical issue here is to not externalize the source of our happiness... and to let go of the idea that an object or person or anything--other than ourselves--can create our happiness (or misery). Things can influence us, but we ultimately choose how we relate to them and our state of being around it.

Those who get caught up in externalizing happiness become slaves to the object they've empowered such as money, affection, or that car... none of which have any real power unless we give our power away...

We all get distracted and eventually think that happiness (or misery) come from the outside... it's only logical because of how our senses are designed... we see out... like the Buddhist say, a knife can't cut itself... we are our own blind spot so we naturally externalize our feelings.

The key here is awareness... constant awareness... slowing down, deliberate breathing, and meditation all help this awareness.

Here's a good mantra... happiness is an inside job.

Remember to feel the feelings your desires provide... that is the secret to the law of attraction.

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